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Classroom Management Strategies for the average teacher
Classroom Management Strategies for the average teacher
The Thomas Gordon model of classroom management is an interesting classroom management model that asks teachers to become equals with their students, throw out class rules, teach problem-solving skills and use “I-messages” when behavior problems come up.
Lets take a look at each of these four aspects of Gordon’s model:
Become Equal with Your Students
The idea here is that a good leader will not dictate to his followers but come from another angle that creates mutual respect. Teachers are to engage in active listening where they repeat back to the student what the student said, in the teachers own words, to indicate that he understood.
The benefit of this concept is that in an adult situation, leaders who do not dictate get a better response from followers. The issue is that students are not yet adults. In fact, research shows that the decision making part of their brain is not fully matured for quite some time, making it vital for the teacher to set boundaries and limitations on the students.
Throw Out Class Rules
The actual concept here is that students will together come up with what Gordon calls “agreements” in place of teacher dictated “rules”. They are to be hung where all students can see them.
This is not dissimilar to hundreds of teachers who have their students come up with the class rules at the beginning of the school year, with the exception of the name. The benefit of calling the rules “agreements” is that this might make children who are driven to push the rules, to instead, follow them. The problem with this is that in the end, agreements are nothing more than class rules.
Teach Problem Solving Skills
There is a process to solving a problem:
I see no problems with this at all. In fact, I think more parents and teachers should use this problem solving strategy in their classrooms and homes. Children need to learn how to solve problems.
Use I-Messages
An I-message is one that explains how one person’s behavior affected you and made you feel. For example, “when you do that, it makes me feel this way”. This is the method that teachers are to handle discipline issues in the classroom.
The only benefit, if it is a benefit, that I can find with this is that it does not confront students head-on. It does help to identify ones feelings, but in the end, many students couldn’t care less how their teacher felt about their behavior. This aspect of Gordon’s model of classroom management has the potential to make a lot of teachers very permissive.
Find out more about the Thomas Gordon Model of Classroom Management:
Using the Thomas Gordon Classroom Management Method
Thomas Gordon (this is another critique)
Gordon Training International (the official website)
With so many different students and teachers and schools, it might seem hard to pinpoint the top three mistakes teachers make in managing their classrooms. There is some basic same-ness that allows for such a broad classification, though.
1. Raising your voice.
Raising your voice will only serve to escalate the problem. Even if the students quiet down or listen for a moment, it is only a temporary fix and will in fact cause more classroom management problems down the road.
2. Ignoring students.
This is different than ignoring student behavior, something that is sometimes necessary. Instead, a teacher who ignores students, or who is checked out, not caring about what happens in her classroom, is doing her students a huge disservice. If this is you, it is time to find a new job.
3. Relying on Parents.
This one is a sad truth about the culture of America today and in some situations is not true. While some parents are involved and do discipline their children, even for actions done at school, the age of a parent backing a teacher is in the past. It is time for teachers to find new ways to discipline children because threatening with a note or phone call home is becoming a useless act.
Sure, you make it through each day, and you feel your students are pretty good most of the time, but have you ever sat down and reevaluated whether or not your management style is good enough? It’s time to find out if things can be better than they are, even if you think they’re ok as they are.
Evaluating your Management Style:
Feb 12th
For a limited time, you can download my Classroom Management Ebook for free! Learn the basics to effective classroom management, how to motivate your students and more. Special section for substitute teachers and special’s Teachers.
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Dec 30th
Total Focus is one way that classroom teachers can revolutionize the student behavior in the classroom. While it does take an initial investment of about $150, this program will provide the tools that any teacher or parent can implement with any child to improve focus and concentration.
While Total Focus is written with the ADHD child in mind, any student can benefit from the attention and focus training. The skills that parents and teachers learn while implementing this program are similar to those skills that special education teachers use.
For more information on the Total Focus, read my in-depth review here, or find out how you can get a free trial.
Dec 3rd
Student are going to only become more and more excited as Christmas comes closer, causing teachers to have to work extra hard to keep students focused on the lessons. Here are a few ideas to help focus students and minimize unruly behavior.
Nov 16th
When you understand your teaching style, the student behaviors will fall more easily into place. Additionally, you will be able to better manage the misbehavior’s in the classroom.
Questions to ask yourself:
Do you prefer students to be silent while you teach or can they interrupt with questions?
Do you prefer students to work in groups or individually?
What kind of relationship do you have with your students?
Does your teaching reality match what you want it to be?
Does your student’s behavior fit how you want them to behave?
Understanding the answers to these questions will help teachers begin to build a framework around what kind of teaching and student behavior they will expect in the classroom.
Many teachers who graduate from a teaching program at a college or university have grandiose ideas about how their classroom management strategy is to prevent all discipline problems from happening. While this is naive and an incomplete classroom management plan, there is validity to the concept.
Keeping children engaged and on task is a by-product of a well-planned lesson that incorporates many different learning styles and teaching strategies.
Teachers need to consider including some of the following lesson plan strategies in their lessons:
It is also important to incorporate each learning style into the lesson in order to keep all students engaged.
Visual Learners – Visual aspects to a lesson are often easy to include. This covers pictures, writing on the board, written examples, flash cards and similar objects.
Auditory Learners – Auditory aspects to a lesson include oral directions, lectures, and songs. Using mnemonic devices to help students remember key points is another great auditory learning strategy.
Kinesthetic Learners – Kinesthetic aspects to a lesson include the use of manipulatives and any activities that get students up and moving including games and plays.
With these multidimensional aspects to lesson plans, teachers will have the right planning in place for minimal discipline problems. Even so, it is important that teachers have an additional behavior plan in place as even the most well planned lesson can still have it’s problems.
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by Elisabeth Wilkins, EP Editor
| Brandi Franks
Second Grade Teacher Texas |
When one of Brandi Frank’s second grade students was expelled for punching another teacher in the stomach, Brandi was ready for his return to her classroom six weeks later. “I sat down in community circle in the morning and talked with the other students and explained that this boy, *Kyle, was coming back to the classroom. The number one thing I established was, ‘There’s no excuse for abuse.’”
“It’s very frustrating, because teachers want help so badly. You spend the day putting out fires, and unfortunately, scores go down because the kids are not learning everything they need to learn.”
—Brandi Franks
Second Grade Teacher
Kyle’s acting out behavior was a well-known fact at Brandi’s school in southeast Texas. He often threw things, pushed other kids, broke their personal items and called them names. But Brandi turned things around. “I told my class, ‘I can’t abuse you and you can’t abuse me, period. And that goes for *Kyle, too.’”
What happened to change everything in the six weeks before Kyle’s return? Brandi had started using the Total Transformation Program at home with her own son, Noah, and had seen results within a couple of weeks, so she decided to adapt it to her classroom. “I thought, if this works with my child, why won’t it work with second graders?”
The fact is, many teachers report that they are not taught how to manage classroom behavior while in college; rather, their education focuses solely on academics and teaching methods. That means when you start teaching, “They say, ‘Here’s the class, you take care of them, and the less we see them up front, the better,’” says Brandi. “ It’s very frustrating, because teachers want help so badly. We’re having to teach kids how to behave in class, and that takes a long time. You spend the day putting out fires, and unfortunately, scores go down because the kids are not learning everything they need to learn.”
Brandi said she was so desperate for help with her class that she “went to every workshop you can imagine, but I couldn’t find anything that worked,” until she got the Total Transformation for her son.
And when Kyle got back into her classroom that first day, Brandi was ready for him to act out. “He didn’t want to do math, and started with the mouthy behavior. I said, ‘This is what we’re doing,’ and I got him started on the assignment. I told him, ‘I’ll be back in 5 minutes to check on you.’ Then I turned around and walked away from him instead of responding to his backtalk. He was left without an audience, and he realized I wasn’t going to get caught up in his web.”
By using methods from the program, Brandi succeeded in turning around Kyle’s behavior that year. He ended up passing her class, “and became a totally different kid,” says Brandi with a smile. “His mom started getting the happy phone calls instead of the ‘you have to come get him because he just hit someone’ calls.”
Other teachers at Brandi’s school started asking how she maintained order in her classroom. “They noticed that my kids were very well-behaved in the halls—even the substitute teachers thanked me,” Brandi laughs. “The assistant principal came to talk to me and asked me what I was doing differently. He’d noticed that Kyle’s twin brother, who had similar behavior issues and was in a different classroom, had not changed at all that year, and wanted to know what my ‘secret’ was. I told him it was the Total Transformation. It’s the only thing that works that I’ve used,” says Brandi.
| Jan Moore
Middle School Teacher Utah |
Jan Moore was also having problems with some students in her middle school art class in northern Utah. Although Jan enforces rules and consequences when her students don’t follow directions, she still has students who push the limits from time to time. Like Brandi, Jan also ordered The Total Transformation for help within her own family—in her case, for her two grandsons.
“It was working well with my grandsons, so I decided to try it with students in my class,” Jan said. “Before I would ask them, ‘Why aren’t you in your seat?’ Now I don’t ask ‘Why’ questions anymore. Instead, I say, ‘What are you supposed to be doing right now?’ Or ‘What is my rule about talking when I’m talking?’ And my students tell me. I can walk over and say ‘Where should you be?’ and my students go right back to their seats.”
Things turned around in Jan’s class as well. “When I started using The Total Transformation in the classroom, it was kind of like a miracle,” says Jan. “I also like it because it helps me come up with phrases that solve the problems with my students almost immediately.”
Using the program has also changed the way Jan observes parents and their children interacting during parent-teacher conferences. “One mother actually said to her child, ‘I’ve been told you’re just like me, and I wasn’t a good child… and you’re not a good child.’” Jan was stunned. “I realized that there are so many ineffective ways of parenting. I wanted to tell that mom to get the Total Transformation.”
Not only is Jan seeing changes in the classroom, she’s also seeing changes in her grandsons when they come over to her house. “Now they’re going, ‘Wow, we get it. Grandma is going to spend time playing with us, and if we want to continue, we have to behave.’” The last time they came to visit, Jan says she didn’t have to discipline either of them at all. “Before my grandsons left, the older one gave me a hug, and said, ‘Thank you Grandma, for letting me come to your house.’ It was great! It’s working and I’m grateful.”
*Not his real name.
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Elisabeth Wilkins is the editor of Empowering Parents and the mother of a 6 year old son. Her work has appeared in national and international publications, including Mothering, Motherhood, and The Japan Times. Elisabeth holds a Masters in Fine Arts in Creative Writing from the University of Southern Maine. |
Sep 30th
Learn tips on how to handle power struggles with students through the sage advice of James Lehman, behavioral therapist.
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